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Tuesday, December 29, 2009

A Mann Amongst Men

My dad, Norman Mann, passed away early Monday morning after an all-too-short and futile fight against lung cancer, an unsparing, undiscriminating, relentless and utterly merciless disease; truly a terrorist right here in our midst. My dad had been as healthy and robust as a 79 year old man could be, yet he was no match for this insipid sickness. Still on the golf course as recently as this past summer, he was reduced to utter helplessness and confusion in a matter of months. Seeing him relegated to that state over the last few weeks has been the most difficult experience of my life. Fortunately, we were able to console ourselves somewhat with our success in bringing him home from the hospital on Christmas Eve. There, he was far more comfortable and died in relative peace (content, we hope, in the knowledge that the fortunes of his beloved Jets have been miraculously and fortuitously revived, and mercifully spared from enduring the disappointment which is sure to come on Sunday).

The expected relief from the knowledge that he is tormented no more has yet to supplant the sadness of his passing. We grew apart during my stupid teenage years (which ran well into my 20's, a common affliction as I've learned of late). But though we grew closer over the ensuing years, I feel like we were still getting to know each other, and that I could only have grown wiser and kinder from having done so.

My dad leaves Honey, my mom and his wife of 57 years, his adoring family (including nine grandchildren), and a huge throng of friends. He was loved for his kindness, extraordinary generosity, perpetual good spirits, and his keen sense of humor. We already miss him greatly.

Thanks as always for dropping by the blog, and here's wishing all of you a happy, prosperous, and, above all, healthy New Year. Speak to you again soon.

32 Comments:

Anonymous said...

Alan

Our deepest sympathies for you and your family.

jk said...

I am sorry for your loss. May your dad rest in peace.

El Angelo said...

Condolences on your loss.

race said...

Alan--
There is another race track in the sky where all our Dad's are waiting for us--Till then they are cheering our Steeds to Victory--God Bless--race

SaratogaSpa said...

Our deepest sympathies to you and your family.

dana said...

very sorry for your loss Alan.

Ray said...

My thoughts are with you and your family.

steven said...

I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I didn't know him, but if you are any indication. He was a good man.
Steven

Anonymous said...

Your dad is now standing next to mine in the ultimate winners circle, where even Jets fans have a perpetual smile.

Laoch of Chicago said...

My condolences to you and your family for your loss.

late scratch said...

Blessed be the one true judge.

Anonymous said...

my deepest condolences to you and your family Alan

steve in nc said...

Alan, what you wrote about those extended teen years hit home. I appreciate what you shared, and you are in my thoughts.

Anonymous said...

Alan, sorry for your loss. The loss of a father, a patriarch, is especially hard, as among other things it marks an important milestone in anyone's life. Your short obit/ eulogy was heartfelt; Dad sounds like a wonderful man who lived a long and good life, and will always be fondly remembered by family and friends. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time. /S/greenmtnpunter

Tom Wright said...

Alan

Sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad to cancer several years ago now. Not a day goes by that I don't miss him. My deepest regards.

Anonymous said...

I'm sorry for you're loss. I've been through it myself,my father to cancer. Be strong now, and deal with it when you can.

Rich

John said...

Thanks for sharing your thoughts about your Dad.

Big deal, he liked the Jets.

Who was his favorite horse?

Tote Board Brad said...

rough trip, hoss. my deepest, alan.

knowing what a champion you are, your pop must have been a hell of a man.

DiscreetPicks said...

Just saw this. Really sorry to hear of your dad's passing, but like you said, at least he's at rest now, and doesn't have to deal with that horrible disease anymore. Hope you and your family can take some solace in that, and remember the good times that you shared together. Those can never be taken from you...

fmhealth said...

Alan,

To raise a son of your quality & compassion is a true testament to your Dad. My heart felt condolences to you & your family.

He'll always be a part of you & what you stand for. Ultimately, we'll all be reunited & live blissfully.

Warmest Personal Regards,
Scott (fmhealth)

Anonymous said...

sorry for your loss.

Elizabeth said...

Alan, my deepest sympathies to you and your family on the loss of your father. I lost my Dad almost 4 years ago, and I know who hard it is. Always remember that someday you will be together again.

Anonymous said...

Alan,
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my own father to the same illness 20 years ago, so I understand how difficult this time is for you and your family. Please accept my sincere condolences and know he's at peace.

Anonymous said...

Alan

Sorry for your loss.
My deepest regards for you and your family.

Theiman

Anonymous said...

God bless.

suebroux said...

I'm sorry for your loss, Alan. Deepest sympathies to you and your family.

Michael F. ,Las Vegas said...

Alan,
I'm so sorry for your loss. My mom died from lung cancer back in '01 so I understand what you're family has gone through. It sucks.

oso7 said...

Alan,
Losing a parent, especially one you love and respect, is so difficult to accept. It's evident he was blessed with a loving family and the fact he had a 57 year marriage to your mother speaks volumes about him. I hope you take comfort in the fact that you grew close to your father as an adult, too many children never do and remain estranged from their parents until it is too late to make amends. May he rest in peace.
Kate Harper

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for your loss.
After watching my Dad struggle, and deteriorate,both physically and mentally, for over 2 years, I believe you can be thankful that his battle was short. Relief that he is no longer tormented is directly proportional to the amount of suffering you had to watch him endure, but never supplants the sadness over the loss.

Jim O said...

My condolences

Sunny Jim said...

Condolences on your loss Alan.

race said...

Alan--
When I go to the Track I think of the times my Dad and I were together cheering our Horses together to the wire--your Dad now is up there in the Racetrack of the Sky, looking down favorably on you--r